>>WEDDING CEREMONY & VOWS >>
Your wedding vows should only take a few minutes to say to each
other, but the meaning behind them should last a lifetime.
If you are getting married in a religious ceremony, check with your officiant
to find out if there are any restrictions on wedding vows. You may not
be allowed to deviate from the wedding vows your celebrant provides.
If you can personalize your wedding vows, keep these tips in mind:
- Talk to your officiant about your wedding vows in advance to be sure
you aren't surprised by any restrictions later.
- Talk to your fiance and decide if you will each recite the same vows,
or each make different vows.
- Keep them short - as meaningful as they are to you, you shouldn't
overwhelm your guests with overly lengthy wedding vows. Three minutes
should be about as long as your vows take, at most.
- Remember you are speaking publicly. Keep your wedding vows to the
point, and don't include any intimate details that are better reserved
for a private conversation between the two of you.
- Practice reciting your wedding vows out loud in advance. Don't let
your wedding day be your first rehearsal of your vows.
- If you can't incorporate a favorite poem or religious passage into
your wedding vows due to time constraints, you can still use them as
Your wedding vows should come from your heart, but you can look to poetry
and song lyrics that meaningful to you for inspiration. Don't let an effort
to be "different" discourage you from using phrases from traditional
wedding vows. You can alter them to make them personal while allowing
the echo of tradition run through your vows. Think about words like honor
and cherish - these describe timeless qualities of love.
It can help to look at sample wedding
vows - you may find vows that exactly express your feelings, or those
that simply give you a starting point to create your own individual wedding